I think you're doing great and you don't look bad. I'm glad you're well.

Looking good, chicky!

 

Hope you're doing alright with all the crap going on.  You can always PM me if you need some girl talk time or need to vent. 

Thanks !

 

RC, cheers, I am sure you could give me all sorts of advice, but thing is, I don't know what that is so It's impossible for me to ask!

I meant for whenever you need to talk to someone of the same gender, Jesse.  It doesn't have to be for advice

oh ok! thanks!

I'm not very good at chatting or small talk but I will keep it in mind

oh ok! thanks!

I'm not very good at chatting or small talk but I will keep it in mind

 

Of course you are. That's why I like talking to you. You give the best advise on a lot things. You've really made my life uncomplicated in the past. That is for sure. I don't know where I'd be today if I hadn't come to you.

that's very kind!!

 

but you realise... that is the very opposite of small talk!

that's very kind!!

 

but you realise... that is the very opposite of small talk!

 

Well....you're good with both. So. You mentioned you went on a date. I assume it went very well. Did you have fun?  

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Well, we just went to a cafe and talked.

he was a really nice guy and had nice blue eyes, and seems really honest and open. We talked about a lot of things and seem to have a lot of interests in common. I think maybe I like him and I'd like to hang out with him again. I've never experienced actual attraction to a man but maybe this is something that comes with time? I mean, other than seeing eyes on TV and finding them attractive...

Good for you Jess! Whatever it is as long as it makes you happy

It sounds like everything went well. Just take it slow and easy like you are. I think things are going to go well for you.

I'm just gonna copy and paste what i wrote on facebook.
different day, different guy. so I had my second date this time.
now... this guy was more forward and confident. he held my hand. it made me dizzy and felt odd. so I think that is a good thing. but it was scary. also, I actually kissed him goodnight. I didn't mind it. I wouldn't say I wanted to do that more. so now I'm confused and I feel like crying. I like the guy and we get along well. we have talked a lot. but maybe I just want friends, and maybe the ways i was feeling was more to do with automatic responses rather than whether or not I liked him? how do you even tell?
honestly if I think about spending more time with him, I feel scared. I feel like it is something that is very difficult.
I feel like I don't want to. I should trust that. but why? am I just scared or do I just genuinely not like him in that way? so confused.

It may be a little of both. Don't focus too much on the anxiety of it if possible. Try to enjoy it but totally listen to your instincts. He may have been too forward or maybe it's as simple as lack of attraction. The best part is there is no commitment or strings. You don't have to rush for a finish line. The world is yours to command... Especially with this. You're a smart and attractive lady. Take your time and enjoy. Just my 2 pennies

I think you're right. I think maybe he was a bit too forward and it scared me.
I'm pretty sure I liked when he held my hand.  it was only as he continued to be affectionate, I started to feel put off.
I think maybe I just need to move very slowly. but will a guy really be patient? I mean isn't that off-putting to guys?

It will not matter to any guy that matters. You deserve to be treated well and go at your speed. If he is in a rush then he's not for you. You have the control. Chin up. It's a rough ride but you can do it. Don't let pressure or anything else make you do things you don't want to. If a guy or girl for that matter really likes you they will wait and make you comfortable. Not all guys are pigs. Be careful and have fun!

thanks, that does make me feel better. I'll just have to think about what I really want. you are right. if he is worth it he will be patient.

That's all any of us can do.

ok I saw him again today. we spent a good 6 hours together. we talked a lot and had a nice time. but I realised that there were definitely no sparks. it's not that I don't feel comfortable or wasn't relaxed enough. I mean I was very relaxed for sure. we spent a lot of time just lying and talking and stuff. I trust him and I like him and he really is a great guy. It's a shame because I wish I felt something but I can't change who I am. I don't suppose it means I am a lesbian, I might find another guy who i feel sparks with, but he did help me to realise that I need to either find someone who is celibate or I need to be okay interacting completely with my body how it currently is. so, I guess it's best that I just stay single until I can get things completely sorted.

I think you knowing all of this upfront is perfect. Place the lines. Follow yourself and it will all fall into place. There is no rush with any of this. Whether you're a lesbian, straight or bi, you DO know you want to move slow. Wait for the spark. That's half the battle Glad you're keeping on trying though. Takes some courage to get out there and do that these days. Kudos!

yeah you're dead right. courage for sure!  I was crying so much last night because I wished I didn't have to stop seeing him. but a relationship needs kissing and cuddling and more intimate things. It's difficult to go out there and make myself vulnerable but it's the only way to find happiness.

Exactly. Through that courage you'll find what you're looking for. Just don't let fear consume you. Take it day by day. Date by date. If you need a break, take one. Keep your mind simple and it'll be easier. You owe yourself that and no one else anything.

Hi Yuki.

 

This morning while I was trying to sleep, I was thinking of some stuff about female Guyver characters that I was thinking of asking your about, probably in a PM.  If you're interested, let me know where I can ask my questions/share my thoughts.  I'm sort of seeking a female POV on this stuff, which isn't exactly easy to find in the Guyver universe.

ok sure. send me an email if you like.

 

ask jupiter, he has my address

.ask jupiter, he has my address

 

I used to have it. But I deleted the email address where I had a ton of people as my contacts on it. 

ok, i hit you up on facebook