I'm really remorseful about this situation.
as site admin I have to think about how this reflects on the community and of course it gives a bad taste for anyone who experiences this. I never thought of this community as a place where this kind of situation might arise but then that is probably a naive view.
no place is free from issues. I can't assume that one party is at fault because I don't have all the information and unfortunately it is not really possible for me to do anything to rectify this situation or to make any provisions as I don't have all the data.
I could assume that one party was at fault and do some kind of suspension or warning or whatever, but I simply can't make that judgement.
I think the best thing any of us can do is advise caution.
we used to have a notice on the classifieds forum but it doesn't seem to be there now.
I don't understand why it is no longer present but I will make sure it is restored. we don't have a system to ensure people are trustworthy or to check to see what troubles they might be having in their day to day life. I certainly can't judge anybody else when I have a box full of guyver books still to0 send out. all I can do is say I'm really sorry this didn't work out well for you and to promise to put up a notice to advise caution.