Wow, sorry to hear that. It must have been very tough on you. I hope you don't mind me asking some questions, you did post this on a public forum, so please pardon me in advance if you feel offended by my inquiries. I noticed from the date of this topic started 5 years ago that you were having second thoughts on your relationship, and then made the final decision just last year. This must have been a long arduous struggle for you to sort things out. I'm sure you have tried everything in your disposal to try and save the relationship, but how did your kids take it? Having experience the same thing when you were younger I'm sure you know how it feels.
But at least you now feel happier, and that's what really counts.