Feminenty vs masculinity: who knows, who cares?

[*Chernaudi]

No problem, just stating how I feel.  It's like I feel that I don't feel complete without a woman to share stuff like that with.  I've never been a believer in that women want "macho men" all the time.  Or as Benito Mussolini put it, "women prefer brutality to sensitivity" in men.  BS, Benito, just another of the list of things you were wrong about

 

But my sensitive side kinda pulls me even more towards women because I think that stuff appeals to them and women are more understanding of that.  I'm a straight male, and I do think that women are attuned to sensitivity rather than brashness.

[*Chernaudi]

I guess maybe that in addition that there's girly things I'd like to do with a woman.  I'm not really a sleep with your date on the first night out deal.  I think that I could be affectionate/semi-sensual with a woman, if you count kissing, embracing, helping her do her hair and nails and rubbing her feet as sensual stuff.  But I'm not big on sex early in a relationship.  Besides, she'd have to put up with my manly obsessions, so I guess it's only fair I play the game with her.

 

So I guess this is a bit about how a woman would see me.  I guess it sorta fit in--after all, most of my friends are women, and my guy friends get along with me pretty well.

[*Jess♥]

I think that is pretty desirable.

some men can get pretty intense and it can be quite intimidating.

I have often thought what kind of guy I would go for if I were interested in Men that way. Thor comes to mind.

 

 

but yeah, I think the type of man that is most attractive is the type who is not so interested in sex, someone who has a strong heart, who is calm and strong and thoughtful.

[*Chernaudi]

Well, my dream girl is kinda like Shizu   However, I do think that for a woman it'd be a plus for them that I can cook and clean.  I'm single and aside from my grandmother, I live with both of my brothers.  So I sorta have to fend for myself there LOL.  But that's something that I think a woman, especially one who's busy with a job/career, could find desirable.

[Guest Jupiter]

I think Katie Cassidy is really pretty. She's really hot in that show,  Arrow. She's are really good actress.

[*Chernaudi]

This is the biggest thing I don't get.  WHO says what fits what standard?  Kinda goes back to something I said in Yuki's blog about people being more tolerant and open minded.  We all think differently and have different values and perspectives.  What fits one person doesn't necessarily fit another. 

 

Some guys might see me as gay because I'm into women's fashion and such.  Well, I'm into world history, weapons, and motorsports.  Then again, women who are into that stuff get categorized as tomboys and such, even if they're actually pretty feminine.  And besides, I am sexually attracted to women.

 

You don't know how much sometimes I want to tell these "world standards" to stick it.  As I said, there's no such thing as "normal" in this world.  "Normal" is what you make it.

 

I feel a little drunk right now, since I got up and totally feel like crap--hot, sick, been trying to drink water to see if that helps, and it did a little.  But I was thinking about this so I decided to post what I was thinking at this moment about the topic.

 

You guys also may wanna check out my blog for some more stuff, namely my perspective on my writing style.

[*Chernaudi]

Just wanna ask/say something?  I'm interested in writing, artwork, graphic design, cooking, reading, that kinda stuff?  Would that be considered feminine or masculine?  Could that be my feminine side coming out and how I express it?  Just curious, because some of it might be due to me being a single guy living mostly with other men (cooking), some of it seems like stuff I picked up from my mom because I have a personality similar to hers.  Anyone have an opinion on that?

[*Jess♥]

none of these things are inherantly masculine or feminine.

what matters is how you approach them.

would you say my art is masculine or feminine?

[*Chernaudi]

It depends on what you want it to be.  I depends on subject and how you present it.  The reason I asked is that I have a personality similar to my mom, and she's good at all of that stuff I mentioned.  So I have a personality similar to my mom, so I'm wondering how that works out?

 

I mean, I do cook, but it's partly out of necessity.  But I feel like I picked up a lot of my interest and personality traits from my mom.

[*Jess♥]

I also have a similar personality to my mother.

not really in the sense of hobbies etc. she is a useless cook and she is not really creative. she sticks her head under the sand whenver anything hapens.

but in some ways we are very alike. we like superhero movies but not really fanatical about teh comics. we aren't really into makeup so much or fancy dressing up, but at some occasions we do like to go all out. she can be a naggy stubborn bitch and so can I. so some things like that we are similar. but it's personality traits rather than hobbies.

I think personality traits will determine if you are masculine or feminine. I think though... liking something that is seen as feminine and being okay with that, is a feminine trait. so if you like crochet and knitting etc and you are happy withthat, then that could be a feminine trait. if you view cooking as a solely feminine thing, and then you decide that you like cooking and you're happy with that, then it makes you feminine in that respect.

 

I think my art is feminine when I paint things pink and put cute stuff in it.

[*Chernaudi]

Well, I'm actually mostly solitary and reserved, I don't talk too much, I like peace and quiet, I like reading in bed, I try and be logical about stuff and usually avoid confrontation.  Those are similarities I have with my mother.  Only things I picked up from my father is a liking of auto racing/cars and history and stuff related to that.  Also, I tend to read a lot of non fictional stuff.

 

Personally, I think that cooking is a bit of an independence thing, but I picked that up from mom, too.  Combine that with how I write and stuff, I do guess that my personality is feminine more than anything else. 

 

I guess it's a question of perception and why I feel more comfortable with women.

[Guest Jupiter]

Well, I'm actually mostly solitary and reserved, I don't talk too much, I like peace and quiet, I like reading in bed, I try and be logical about stuff and usually avoid confrontation.  Those are similarities I have with my mother.  Only things I picked up from my father is a liking of auto racing/cars and history and stuff related to that.  Also, I tend to read a lot of non fictional stuff.

 

Personally, I think that cooking is a bit of an independence thing, but I picked that up from mom, too.  Combine that with how I write and stuff, I do guess that my personality is feminine more than anything else. 

 

I guess it's a question of perception and why I feel more comfortable with women.

 

I cant cook worth a damn. I can cook  things like eggs and spaghetti, canned food, and tv dinners. Thats the only skills I have. I guess I should be embarrassed.

[*Chernaudi]

Well, one, I learned from my mom   And two, when you live with two brothers and a 83 year old grandmother, it does help to be somewhat able to fend for yourself.  I've been cooking on my own since I was about 12 or so.  I do consider it a skill for when one is single, like I am.  That, and I do think that women would like that characteristic

[Guest Jupiter]

Well, one, I learned from my mom   And two, when you live with two brothers and a 83 year old grandmother, it does help to be somewhat able to fend for yourself.  I've been cooking on my own since I was about 12 or so.  I do consider it a skill for when one is single, like I am.  That, and I do think that women would like that characteristic

 

I'm really skilled with the microwave though. I'm a real champ. lol

[*Chernaudi]

I'm also kinda a nut at times on why go and eat out when you can make stuff just as good at home, and probably save some money?  However, since I'll be headed back to work soon, that might change a bit.

 

That aside, there's things that I find feminine that I like doing--reading in bed, writing for fun, trying to get comfortable sleeping, and the way I sleep is even something I'd consider a bit feminine.

[*Chernaudi]

Just to post here after watching the LM 24, and it's somewhat related to this topic.  I'd have to say, IMO, that Leena Gade, who has as of today won Le Mans 3 times as a race engineer/technician for Audi Sport, is a much better role model for women in motorsports than Danica Patrick is.  Unlike Danica, Leena, for one, hasn't used her gender as a sex or gender based marketing ploy.  She's been featured in ads for Audi, but it reflects on her role in the team, not for the same stuff that's become synonymous with Danica.  Also, though she's not a driver, Leena has also been more successful in racing as far as results than Danica.

 

Also, Leena, like Shizu in Guyver, does show that you can still be a feminine woman in a male dominated field without using one's sexuality to get people to do crap.  Hence, why I think that Leena is a great role model for women in racing, in technical fields, and women in general.