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For people to listen to your story you've got to listen to theirs and understand the point they are trying to make to you. 

The world for the most part is what you make of it. There is a lot to be said for the idea that events and history shape a person but in the end we all have a brain, we can all think and we can all change if we really want to. Fife takes effort, there is no way around it. Everything you work at, study, do etc requires work including family. 

While not being a doormat for your family problems, make time for them and don't lose contact with them. You can make friends anytime, but not family. Your sister will sooner or later try again to make peace with you, they always do. If you let the hurt hold onto you and get over it, it'll stop you trowing it back at her the next time you meet. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The good news today is that I paid off my loan on my Toyota Highlander over a span of 6 years. The bad news is I owe the bank $797. 98 in interest and late payments. I feel like they shafted me just a

For people to listen to your story you've got to listen to theirs and understand the point they are trying to make to you.  The world for the most part is what you make of it. There is a lot to b

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For people to listen to your story you've got to listen to theirs and understand the point they are trying to make to you. 

The world for the most part is what you make of it. There is a lot to be said for the idea that events and history shape a person but in the end we all have a brain, we can all think and we can all change if we really want to. Fife takes effort, there is no way around it. Everything you work at, study, do etc requires work including family. 

While not being a doormat for your family problems, make time for them and don't lose contact with them. You can make friends anytime, but not family. Your sister will sooner or later try again to make peace with you, they always do. If you let the hurt hold onto you and get over it, it'll stop you trowing it back at her the next time you meet. 

Thank you, Sully. Things have been slowly been getting better. Normally after a rough argument. My siblings and I cool off after having some space and than we put aside our differences & make up. 

What has always bothered me though is that I am unable to share personal issues and how I feel with my family members. It is much easier for me to open up and find common ground with someone I can confide in outside of family though. My mother and grandparents don't like to hear that I'm having a problem. So I'm unable to get them involved no matter how much I'd like that. They're just not very agreeable.It just causes more trouble. 

So. I'd like to say what is really on my mind. My sister is pregnant. She got pregnant while in college to a man who is my age. She's 18, I'm 30. She confided in my wife. Who told me and made me keep it a secret from my parents and grandparents. In which I did. I kept this secret for over a month before my sister told my mother. Who became very stressed out. What is worse is that my wife and sister told my mother that I knew. I disagreed with their decision in telling my mother because I knew that I was going to be the one my mother harasses and exactly that happened. 

My mother thinks I'm a narc and has never trusted me with any kind of information. Used to when I was a child, I couldn't keep my mouth shut. So I was always telling people things what my mother said. Which bit me in ass later on as it does me today although. I can keep a secret and people aren't always happy to hear the truth. 

I knew my mother is even less appreciative of those who keep secrets from her. Which is where I come in. So she called me....messaged me on facebook constantly. Pleading with me not to tell my brother, whom I hardly talk to. She didn't want him to know either because obviously his mouth is 10 times bigger than my own. 

So this entire subject matter has caused a huge space between me and my family. The part that sucks is that it was never my fault and I feel like people are pissed off at me for no reason. What is worse, I feel like I was thrown under the bus for having been told this information by my wife and my sister and they told my mother I knew causing a huge load of drama....and all my mother and sister have done is gripe and exaggerate it. 

My sister did not get with the man whom she is carrying his child. They hate eachother and I have absolutely no clue why she slept with him. 

Now how the real crap between my sister and I got started was over my opinion. I told her that I didn't think this man needed to know. For one, he's already verbally abusive. She told him anyway causing him to want to start a custody battle. 

I stated my opinion because of my mother's divorce with my father who took my mother to court for custody and it cost her over 15,000 dollars in court and lawyer bills. After my father lost the custody battle he disowned me later on. So I didn't want my sister to go through the same thing. The sad thing is she knows my reasons and just does care how I feel. 

What's worse my sister doesn't even respect me at all. She comes over to visit my wife but hardly acknowledges me or has anything to do with me other than hi and good bye. So this whole thing just pisses me off. I have a hard time ever since staying around her because she's just becoming more and more rude towards me. I would like to continue avoiding her. I almost feel like this whole thing has put a large amount of strain on our relationship.

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Well. I haven't really stated much that has gone on with me in the blog at all. It's mostly been mixed on random things that doesn't really or fully pique anyone's interests. So as for me being a person. I went through some changes in life that I didn't expect. So I was married for 11 years and then suddenly separated and got a divorce. 

  • My ex wife comes home and asks for a divorce in August of 2019. I don't remember the exact day.
  • I tried fixing the marriage for several months. 
  • We lived in the same apartment until October. But she mostly stayed with her sister. 
  • I moved in with my mother for 2 weeks until I could move across town to another apartment complex. I didn't see the kids very much in that time frame. Some small visits. 
  • I transferred the old apartment lease to my ex wife's name when I moved out. 
  • When I moved. My ex wife let me take most of the furniture because it was a gift from my mother and grandmother. She wasn't happy about it.
  • I got a new car. My ex wife had wrecked the 2014 Rav when she hit a deer. 
  • I started getting the kids every other night. 
  • I filed for divorce in November. My ex wife never got a lawyer because she couldn't afford one. I made it 50/50 joint custody. 
  • My ex wife convinced me to file my taxes with her, which she took my half and blew it. 
  • The divorce was final in January the 22nd of 2020. 
  • She guilt tripped me into giving her money for 8 months. Even though she's the one who cheated on me multiple times. 
  • Before and after my divorce was finalized. I had jumped into a really toxic relationship with another woman for 3 months whom I broke up with. It didn't stop her from temporarily making my life a living hell. 
  • I decided to quit dating for 8 and half months and spent a majority of my time alone if it wasn't with the kids. I was depressed about the divorce and my ex wife had become a drug addict. She's still into meth. 
  • I got a home mortgage. So I moved out of my apartment in late October and paid the last 2 months rent on the lease. 
  • I've jumped into another relationship in early December. It hasn't been toxic and I've been with my current girlfriend for almost 4 months. We get along better then me or my ex wife ever did and my kids really like her. 

That about sums it all up. Other than that I've been buying a lot of anime on Amazon, Ebay, and Wal-Mart.com. I've been getting them on Blu Ray formant. I hate streaming. The reason why I'm buying a lot of it is because early in my marriage. My ex wife pretty much convinced me to sell my anime dvd sets. I didn't make a whole lot of money back then, me being in my early 20's. So I felt obligated to help financially. I remember I got 400 for all of it. I had a lot on dvd. So most of what I'm buying now is replacements for what I gave up 11 years ago out of loyalty to someone who didn't deserve it. No she didn't hold a gun to my head and make me do it. But she did have a way of getting me to do things for her. 


What did I buy on Blu Ray?

  • Guyver: Bioboosted Armor
  • Hellsing Ultimate
  • All 3 current seasons of Attack on Titan
  • The Big O
  • The First 2 seasons of Ghost In The Shell, the movies, and ARISE
  • Akira
  • Claymore
  • One Punch Man: Seasons 1 - 2

I think I'm off to a great start. Anyways. Things are going great for me. I'm in a much happier place now. I have a girlfriend who shares a lot of the same interests as I do. She's really the one who inspired me to get back into anime again and to get out of my depression. I ordered a few things for her too.

While I was waiting for it to hit my doorstep. We went out of town for 3 days with the kids several weeks ago. We went to a town in Missouri that had rides and amusement parks. But didn't get to do much because everywhere was packed. My mom and grandma said we picked a busy time to go. It went pretty good. I mainly bought a lot of stuff for my daughter because she's turning 11 years old on April 13th. It falls on a Tuesday of next week. Me and my girlfriend ordered everything off of Amazon from my daughters list that she made. 

It sure brings back memories. I do believe I'm getting old. 

 

 

 

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Well. I've just read that Japan is dumping radioactive waste into the Pacific Ocean. I decided I'd just  post this here in my Random thread. If anyone's interested. Please comment. I'd love to talk about it. 👍

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Japan has decided to release contaminated water accumulated at the wrecked Fukushima nuclear plant into the Pacific Ocean - but its neighbors are not happy.

Tokyo announced this week that it would gradually release more than 1.2 million tons of radioactive water - enough to fill 500 Olympic-sized swimming pools.

Japan has been storing the water in tanks following the 2011 nuclear plant meltdown, which followed a devastating earthquake and tsunami that devastated northern Japan's coastal regions.

South Korean and Chinese governments have voiced concerns that the radioactive water from the nuclear plant could affect food safety and have grave ramifications on marine life in the area.

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/world/south-korea-and-china-are-unhappy-with-japans-decision-to-release-radioactive-water-from-fukushima-into-the-pacific-ocean/ar-BB1fD56m?li=BBnbfcL

 

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